I have had this thought many a times. Well, as we know, I rant on it many a times. But I find it very hard to fathom, that with the new demands that the companies ask of from their employees now, there is no one at home to take care of the kids. And personally, I find it very wrong, cause there should be someone, and that too someone from home itself, who should be raising the kid, rather than have baby sitters to do the same.
We can't expect the child to grow up and be instilled with qualities and characters similar to us if we play no part in its upbringing. And that is very wrong, cause be it however you are, I think everyone wants to raise and spoil their baby in a very personalized way. And the new world as such knows this, accepts this, but does nothing in order to solve it!
The society should change. New norms must be put forth. The work hours should be reduced, or atleast adjusted so that at a time, there is atleast one parent taking care of the baby, of one another. The increase in the divorces, the spoilt children isn’t just a coincidence. It’s a direct effect of the entire corporate blow up we experience now a days. Everyone feels about it, everyone knows its wrong, but no one does a thing about it. This directly leads to the woman in the house giving up her job, her dream in order to fulfill her other dream. Isn’t that wrong? Should the father not have a equal role to play? Is money earning the only job he has to complete, with everything else left to the mother?
There are ways to counter this, even in the current scenario. And I think for this, there should be growth in the minds of the father (or the male ego). One of the great things about a woman is the maturity she shows as she grows and feels that the family is her responsibility. There should be a similar growth among boys, to feel for their family, to help out in activities and to make everyone feel that well besides just the money, there are a lot of ways in which one can make the household feel more homely.
The thing getting lost in all this is the time people can give to one another. After working from 9 to 7, I don’t think any sane person can expect to come home all fresh and then cook up the best meal in the life, have the best movie played on TV and watch it, and then go to sleep early to get up early again. This is mere fantasy. There is a lot to housework than just cooking, and there is a sense of realization that should come up within the individual that well, as much as I am tired, I have to help at home too, because this isn’t a one persons job.
Another thing to realize is that well, since we don’t get time for another, why not spend time doing chores together. It is faster, more fun, and easier and leads to work getting completed too. The worst scene to see is the husband coming home, changing, and putting on the TV, sitting there, relaxing while his wife is busy making arrangements. Then he eats, finishes with some anger from the company being thrown about casually on the family members, and then get up. Leave. And log on to the internet, make a few calls under the pretext of work. Well ya, all that is important too, but think of all the things you are putting at stake while doing all this.
It’s difficult to cope up with the tension. And the obvious way to come out with it is anger. As much as it is right, one must not forget that all this is the same thing going on with the other person too! And instead of resolving things with anger, there are many better ways to calm you off, cool yourself down than this.
Well, not much use after ranting on endlessly. But all I want to say is as we are advancing on all fronts; one of the major short-comings has been growth on the male side. And it is this which atleast boys need to work on. We call ourselves forward, we call ourselves that we are improving with the days needs, but are we really?
